1. Calm. The. Fuck. Down.
The first things you will see are all these people doing all these things.
Girls and boys flying in the air suspended on rope. It looks pretty! You want to do it!
Girls and boys have pretty bruises on their backs, on their tits, on their legs, on their butts. It looks so cool! You want to do it!
Chances are, these boys and girls have years of experience doing exactly that. They started with simple ties, they started with light floggers and canes. they started somewhere. You are new. You are probably young. your time will come.
Take your time, find some people at events, find out if they are safe to play with, ask around. Talk to them. See what kind of vibe you get from them. If all is cool, befriend them. See if they can teach you, preferably at events with other people, or parties with other people. In "public"
In a few years, you will be the one flying with the rope, or with the big bruises everywhere, and the new people will look to you as what they want to be. You have time, be safe, and learn safe.
If you try to rush in, grab anyone who offers you what you want, there is a fair chance they will abuse your limits. Small limit pushes are one thing, being raped and beaten is another. Be Careful, and take your time. You will get there.
2. Know thyself.
It will take time, but know yourself. Know what you want, know how to use your voice, know your limits and know what you will not try.
Know it, speak, and if things are going in a bad way, get the fuck out. There are PLENTY of tops out there, some will be right for you. Many will be WAY WRONG for you. Do not go for the wrong ones. Learn how to identify them, and move on.
3. Be SAFE. Yea, you may look sexy as fuck in that micro skirt, you may feel sexy as fuck in it. but know where to wear it so you can be safe. Put some leggings in your purse and wear them when not so safe. People will tell you "A girl or boy should be able to wear whatever they want and no one should do anything to them. it is their choice what to wear" bla bla bla.. Bull fucking shit! In a perfect world, yea. but the world is FAR from perfect, and it NEVER will be.
I am a pretty big guy, but I would NOT tape $1,000 to my shirt and walk around in certain parts of town. If I did, I would expect to be broke when I got where I was going. If not dead.
Should I be able to wear $1,000 on my shirt and no one should fuck with me? It's my choice, right? I should be able to wear whatever I want. Life doesn't work like that.
4. Have fun!